Is beauty in the eye of the beholder?
I suppose, if I am honest, that I am 3 times less beautiful than I was yesterday.
What has changed since yesterday?
I have had three very prominent beauty spots (moles) removed from my face, which since I am being honest, still has more than its fair share in place.
I am one of those ‘lucky’ people who have lots of black/dark brown spots all over my face & upper body, that are apparently supposed to make me feel beautiful. I have had my spots most of my life and they have grown with me. As I am now at a certain age and a sensible person I regularly have them checked by a specialist in case they turn nasty and change into a skin cancer. (I am confident that all mine are doing is stopping me from feeling beautiful!)
My specialist suggested a while ago that it was easy to remove them if they were bothering me too much. I poopooed that idea saying that they are a part of who I am, I’ve had them all my life etc etc. But the more that I thought about it the more that I wondered how different would I be, if they were gone from my face once and for all?
Upon speaking to my sister & a few close friends it seems that people don’t even notice them, or so they say, and see only ‘me’. I don’t believe this but it does make me feel a bit better whenever I look at my own face. I was never teased at school or through my adolescence and only a few times have I been questioned by a precocious child as to ‘what are all those spots on your face?’ So maybe if was just me who saw them as ugly.
The procedure was extremely quick, relatively painless and with no stitches to leave a replacement scar of its own. I have three spots still but they will clear up in a few days and hopefully will be just as if I had grazed my skin and had the scab fall off after a few days.
One of my daughters was aghast when I said I was thinking of removing them. You see, I always told my daughters that they were my beauty spots and the more I had the more beautiful I was. She reminded me of this although I seem to have forgotten imparting this piece of wisdom. She doesn’t know what I have done yet and I won’t tell her, I’ll wait to see if she notices any difference.
So it remains to be seen if I am 3 times less beautiful than yesterday. I will be the judge of that in a few days and if all else fails, if I am honest, I know that true beauty comes from within.
Deb
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you are still very beautiful don’t worry mum! x
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Thank you darling daughter x
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You’re beautiful , spots or not , beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you have many eyes looking at you and realising what a beautiful lovely person you are and enjoying all your lovely stories and memories
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Hi Deb, came here from your post today – 4 years Congrats!
I am a newbie at only 6 months. Have done a couple of poetry blogging courses and now the commentary one all of which I have totally enjoyed and met lots of new bloggers. But although I enrolled in one on how to blog, tech type course I was lost … just did’t get it. So have no other social media outlets but at this time have over 100 followers and really enjoying it all. As you said if you are not trying to sell anything do you need to push? Doubt I will ever go there. Just do what you enjoy and delete the rest …
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Thanks for that Kate, good advice!
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Was scrolling through to see how long you had been working on your blog and thought I would check out your first post. I like that you try different things on your blog.
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Thanks Louise, I try different things all the time, it’s nice of you to notice (and comment). I am a bit all over the shop at times but it makes life interesting! I’ve got your blog in my sights tonight 🙂
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And now we’re further down the line are you more or less beautiful? For what it’s worth I think you’re friends and family are right and they only see you. xx
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Thanks Rachael, yes in reflection I’ve come to terms more with how I’ve aged so I’m more comfortable with most things now.
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My mom has freckles all over her face and body. She talked about how she had been called a “freak” by cruel kids and always hated her spots. But, I always loved them. I loved them, of course, because she was my mom and a part of her. Isn’t that kind of funny. Other people that love us, love the things about us that we find hard to love in ourselves.
Thank you for sharing your spot removal story!
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Once again Angela, you have hit the nail on the head with your insightful comment. I’m sorry your mum was made to feel a freak and hated her spots. I’m more aware now that others see us and love us for who we are and not what we look like. It’s taken a while to see that though!! Thanks for your support.
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Isn’t interesting that the “flaws” we see in the mirror everyday, nobody else seems to notice or fixate on?
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Yes Melissa, that’s it exactly! Thank you for understanding ❤️
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I used to have a prominent brown beauty mark on my neck that I loved. I felt like it made my neck look more regal and long. But in the 1980’s when seatbelt laws became a reality in the States, I had it removed. My seatbelt rubbed right across the beauty mark and irritated it constantly.
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Yes I can see how that would need to be removed. It’s interesting you say you loved it, I’m so glad to hear that 😊
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