Mother of the Bride update #4 – the final countdown

Welcome to the latest update from the Mother of the Bride!

As I sit here writing this update, the song playing on my random rock selection is The Final Countdown – I kid you not!

I was searching for how many days until the big day and that song comes on – how random!!!  (Followed closely by ACDC’s Thunderstruck…I could sit here all day and keep you informed of the song selections…but I won’t do that!)

Wedding plans

As you are probably aware by now, my next MOB gig  is happening with baby daughter’s wedding planned for October 2017 – in Fiji!   It is a very small, intimate affair, with only parents, siblings, and a few close friends.  I’ve been looking at the resort’s website, pictures and reading reviews and am very pleased with our selections.  We have put a lot of faith in our Wedding Planner at the Outrigger Resort and hope that it all pans out OK. It’s a big deal to go somewhere you’ve never been before, to marry off your daughter!

Mother of the Bride update for daughter's wedding in Fiji
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In my previous posts for this my second Wedding as MOB – MOB #3 MOB Fun,  MOB #2 update and  The MOB returns – I noted that we seem to have everything under control and are well on track with the wedding plans. It does make it easier when most of it is organised by the resort, leaving only minimal decisions to be made…and the money to be paid!

The final checklist has been sent to the wedding planner and all decisions have been made on cake, flowers, food, location of the ceremony and bookings have been made for hair, makeup and photographer.  Flights and accommodation are sorted too.  I have booked a little Hen’s party at the resort’s spa, just for the ladies, on the morning before the wedding.

Overseas Weddings

Getting married in a different country requires some paperwork, as I’m sure you can imagine. One of the latest issues has been the Single Status certificate, a relatively new requirement which proves neither B2B or G2B has been married before.  It is a typical administrative form that is confusing in its wordiness and intent.  But B2B has persevered and seems to have it under control.  The only problem is it has to be submitted 45 days before the wedding, so if you are organised and get the form done a bit earlier, (as government departments are often slow at processing forms), then you may find it will be invalid because it’s not within the 45 days!

Feeling emotional

I had a little teary moment when I read the vows and the ceremony format – much to my daughter’s amusement, s as they couldn’t stop laughing when they read them through. B2B has her dress and it is being altered as we speak, and thankfully she is still very much in love with it.  Apparently it can be quite normal for brides to go off their dress and even get a bit flat about the whole wedding.

Music choices have been discussed and the song choice bandied about for the signing is Signed, Sealed, Delivered but I’m sure they’re just winding me up….

Final MOB thoughts

I’m very fortunate to have a great relationship with my daughter and she knows she can ring me at anytime for a chat about things and to ask my advice.  She also values her sisters’ advice and her Bridesmaid is a great help in keeping her on the right track. Thank goodness for the MOG too, who lives close to the B2B and is very much involved in the whole process. I’m sure the fiance is doing his bit too, in his own way, and we definitely can’t leave him out of the picture!

I’ve mentioned before that I have my outfit organised but I also have a ‘spare’ dress and I have recently ordered not one, but two new swimsuits!! Well, we are going to Fiji and will be spending time around the pool, so I need to be prepared!

The party for family and friends to be held three weeks after the wedding is under  control and I have booked our flights there as well.   I think we’re nearly done 🙂

Scary Funfact: Did you know the average wedding in Australia costs $30985 which doesn’t even include the cost of the honeymoon!  The average honeymoon costs another $7700!  Some weddings cost as much as $80000 and some come in at $2000.  Most couples budget for $20000 expecting it to end up costing approx $5000 more but the actual cost is usually way more than expected.

Whoa, that’s a whole lot of money!  I think sometimes too much emphasis is placed on the wedding . I said something similar to this in an earlier post with Wedding No.1 – the wedding is just one day of your life but your marriage has to last forever!

I saw this lovely quote recently and it sums it up: I want a marriage more beautiful than my wedding. 

Less than 3 months to go now, we’re well under 100 days!


If you have any suggestions please let me know, especially if you’ve done the whole ‘destination’ style wedding before.  Have I missed anything out? It’s a completely new experience for us 🙂  Any wedding suggestions or thoughts are much appreciated , feel free to leave me a comment!

Deb (getting just a bit excited)

Note 1: For those of you not in the know here are the meanings of various acronyms.

MOB = Mother of the Bride

FOB = Father of the Bride

MOG = Mother of the Groom

FOG = Father of the Groom

B2B -Bride to be

G2B – Groom to be

Note 2: B2B wrote this beautiful guest post for me a few years ago, it’s very special!

Note 3: I was thrilled to be featured over on Bridesmaids Confession recently with this post ‘What It’s Really Like to be the Mother of the Bride?

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34 Replies to “Mother of the Bride update #4 – the final countdown”

  1. I think I mentioned that our daughter got married in Bali – in a chapel overlooking the ocean – absolutely beautiful! Everything was taken care of and we just turned up and had a glorious three days of tropical vacation with a lovely wedding and reception thrown into the mix. My only suggestion would be to put in a fan or two (as in the folding hand fan type thing) because the airconditioning is often not all it’s cracked up to be and it really helps to have something on hand to waft the air around a bit. Our daughter ordered some as wedding favours but they arrived a week late so didn’t get used – they would have been a godsend! Lovely following your journey 🙂

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    1. Thanks my lovely girl! It will be great fun having everyone together for the wedding of the year! I’ve just learned how to insert the gifs and feel quite chuffed with myself 🙂


      1. Thank goodness, I really don’t like the GIF, might be an age thing 🙂 lol We arrive back mid October then leave mid November. We go back at the same time each year, to catch up with everyone. Be fun to read your posts, even funnier if you are in the same place as us 🙂

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  2. It truly seems like you have everything sorted out for this fabulous wedding. The only think I’d say you may have forgotten was asking for my address so my invitation will arrive in time for me to make my travel plans. I can’t wait to meet you and your family and spend time in Fiji!

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  3. How exciting Debbie! My daughter eloped to Cinque Terre to be married and her photos are gorgeous Her now husband and she had lived in England for a year and knew Cinque Terre was where they wanted to marry. I had always told my children to have the wedding they wanted. Surprisingly I wasn’t upset not to be there the photos are beautiful and it was just the two of them plus their two best friends. It was perfect. Good luck with the rundown to the wedding but I’m sure it will be lovely and can’t wait to read about it. I love The Final Countdown and I don’t mind a bit of AC/DC either LOL:)

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  4. It’s nice to know that everything is going as planned! Of course, there has to be a blip here and there, or it wouldn’t be life!! But in the end, they’ll be married—yippee!!


  5. I love the quote about marriage. In your case though the wedding sounds personal and FUN. Keeping it small is a wonderful idea. My husband and I got married in our living room with 25 people. I’m so excited to see some Fiji pics!


  6. I wish I had another daughter so I could do it all over again. It’s a lot of planning stress (and expense), but it’s so much fun, too. But I’m glad swimsuits weren’t required for my daughter’s wedding because is was bad enough having to starve myself to fit in my dress! 😉

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  7. Wow. Those costs for weddings are outrageous. I can’t even imagine spending that much. My first wedding gown only cost 300.00 and my second was a black and white dress that cost less than 100.00. I think my second wedding (which I enjoyed more because we eloped) cost less than 500.00. I guess you could consider it a “destination wedding” as well since we got married at the B&B we stayed at for the night!

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