News just in …..
I woke to the news recently that I have been nominated in the Best Lifestyle Blog category of the Annual Bloggers Bash Awards. I sincerely thank whoever nominated me and I humbly accept the nomination. I’m thrilled, proud as punch and amazed to even be nominated!
But there’s a problem – I’m a fraud. Well maybe that’s a bit harsh, I just feel like a fraud and only sometimes, not all the time!
I think I’m having one of my confidence meltdowns – where I don’t think I’m good enough, or have anything interesting to say or get confused or simply overwhelmed by everything. Do you ever feel like this?
Despite having been blogging for years and somehow amassing thousands of followers, I still don’t think I’m any good at it. I’m not looking for compliments here or being self deprecating, I’m seriously doubting my abilities – which I do from time to time! At least I’m an honest fraudster 🙂 I’ll be fine in a day or two!
Why do I do this to myself and where has this feeling come from?
I really had to stop and think about it. I don’t know if I’m just having a mini confidence crisis, feeling lost, overwhelmed by things going on or is it just a slight case of imposter syndrome?
Maybe it’s just a mix of lots of things. Hopefully it will pass and I will resume normal transmission soon. Do you feel like this sometimes, I’d love to know?
But I’ve also read a few articles about on-line bloggers/wellness experts/influencers who have abused their power and had some major negative press, and well deserved I must say, as a result of their questionable actions. Only this week I read Jennifer’s review of a book about one such person and as she said, if it was a novel, it would seem unbelievable.
I’m not one to presume to tell anyone what to do. I don’t like to give advice very often as I don’t think I’m qualified to do so. Blogging is different for everyone, some want to entertain you, some want you to buy things, some want to rant about issues impacting on their lives, some want to tell you what to do.
I suppose this hit me as we all tend to hide a little behind our keyboards. Life isn’t always as we blog about it.
I’m fortunate to have met in real life, some of my friends who I’ve got to know through this blogging community. They have all been lovely, real, kind, generous, authentic and caring people – something I aim to be too.
Blogging Awards in fiction
Given the recent nominations for those of us lucky enough to have received them, these two books by Holly Wainwright also struck a chord. I read them a while ago, and although works of fiction, they hit a nerve.
I thought of them and had a wry smile, as I read the post about the Annual Bloggers Bash Awards. Thankfully I think it is an over the top depiction of bloggers, and none of us are going to go to such lengths to win an award!!
They are light reading but for those of us who are bloggers they also have some home truths, as many people can, and do, get caught up in their own ‘online’ and sometimes ‘unreal’ world.
Sometimes life behind the screen is not as rosy as it seems…
Meet three Mummy Bloggers – each of them followed, idolised, imitated, taunted and trolled online.
Elle Campbell is a glossy, lycra-clad mum with washboard abs, a ten-year plan and a secret past. Abi Black has quit sugar, moved to the country and is homeschooling her kids. Leisel Adams slogs away at her office job each day before rushing home, steeped in guilt, to spend precious moments with her kids before bedtime.
When all three women are nominated for a prestigious blogging award with a hefty cash prize, the scene is set for a brutal and often hilarious battle for hearts, minds-and clicks. As the awards night gets closer, their lies get bigger, their stunts get crazier – and some mistakes from the past become harder and harder to hide.
The Mummy Bloggers is a frank and funny look at the perils and perks of life online.
This was my review on Goodreads:
I was conflicted with this book. I’m a blogger, though not a mummy blogger, more of a midlife blogger, and understood many of the issues. The using everything that goes on around you for fodder for a post, the social media aspect and the time involved in maintaining a blog. Holly Wainwright got most of these things spot on. It made me stop and think about my ‘following’ and how intrusive some parts of blogging can be, in terms of time and effort. I don’t blog for money, have nothing to sell, and use it as a creative outlet but I could still see similarities, which I didn’t like! I also didn’t care much for the main characters. My blogging community is a much nicer world than the three bloggers in this story, I’m happy to say. The story was quite well done but it all just left me a bit cold at times. I also read the second book before reading this one so maybe that clouded my thinking a bit. I didn’t hate it, but I didn’t love it either.
The bestselling author of The Mummy Bloggers is back with another page-turning, rip-roaring story about mums, phones and the cult of self-improvement.
In the rolling green hills of Australia’s hippest hinterland, a new guru is blogging about her breakfast.
ELLE CAMPBELL is back, holed up in an exclusive retreat where women pay thousands to mimic her extreme lifestyle, or die trying. But who’s bankrolling Elle’s new empire? And why are her two tiny sons suddenly absent from her glossy public image?
ABI BLACK just wants to marry her true love under a tree in the garden on New Year’s Eve. But her ex-husband is building a financial cult in the shed, Elle is looming and her teenage daughter’s YouTube channel is gaining followers for all the wrong reasons. The wedding might have to wait.
FRANCES GRAHAM has a colicky newborn, an absent husband and a WhatsApp mothers’ group that’s giving her anxiety. But she’s certain that if she can just be more like those fitmums on Instagram, things can only get better. And surely, if she can scrape enough money together to make it to Elle’s retreat, everything in her life will be just . . . perfect.
Through a world of fake gurus, green smoothies and bad influencers, How to Be Perfect follows Elle, Abi and Frankie into the cult of self-improvement that’s taking over your phone . . . and your breakfast.
These books show just how easily people can get hooked on believing something that’s far from real. I’m not sure I recommend you read these books but it showed me how thankful I am that my blogging community is completely different to the world in these books.
What I’m trying to say is that blogging is like any creative artwork, we all have our ups and downs from time to time, a crisis of confidence, writer’s block, burnout – you name it!
MY 6 TOP TIPS ON HOW TO BE A GRATEFUL BLOGGER:
I suggest we:
- Engage with others regularly
- Find a blogging buddy or a mentor and interact
- Check in on your buddies from time to time – it can be hard to know why some bloggers just disappear from our feeds
- Never be mean or nasty in comments – it is fine to agree to disagree but do so politely
- Try to meet in person – it can be such fun!
- Support each other wherever possible
So, in summary, I am trying to be a grateful blogger and I truly appreciate all your continued support. Thanks again for the nomination, it made my day 🙂
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