It’s Friday – so time for three questions and an F word
My F word for the week is FAMILY
What made me happy this week?
Need you ask? Spending time with my daughter, son-in-law and baby Dottie. I still can’t cuddle Dottie but I can touch her and talk to her. And the book I made for her, Dottie and the Wombat, has arrived – more news on this soon!
My daughter wrote an update on Dottie’s 3 month birthday this week which made me very proud and happy. For those of you who have been following Dottie’s story you might like to read her update.
Dottie is 3 months old 😱
Day 92 in the NICU house. 92 long old days but that said this month feels to have gone quicker and the last 2 weeks someone seems to have hit the accelerate button.
I missed all of autumn my favourite season but instead of getting to watch the leaves change colour I got do so something far more beautiful which is seeing Dottie growing bigger and stronger. It was world prematurity day on Sunday and looking back to how she was vs now was staggering to see how far she’s come and how lucky in someways it’s been that we’ve watched her grow in front of our eyes instead of tucked away in my womb.
It’s been another month with milestones hit. She had her first bath, mastered low flow for her breathing, had all of her grandparents visit, broke the 3kg mark (currently 7lb 3oz), dressed up as a pumpkin for Halloween, they took our big monitor away, replaced it with a little monitor, took our little monitor away and replaced it with nothing 😱. She’s had her 2nd round of immunisations (which she coped so much better with), met her children’s community team and health visitor. She had her first trip off the ward hanging out with mummy for a couple of hours in our parents room. That was the first time I’ve had with her completely on our own. She was signed off by the eye doctors for ROP which is amazing especially for the gestation she was born at and passed her hearing screening with flying colours. 13 weeks of expressing paid off and kept my milk in so she is now exclusively breast fed and lost her feeding tube. She’s learnt how to cry loudly (a skill we could probably do without) and decided that she likes to be nocturnal and have her own little Dottie Discos in the wee hours of the night.
Sadly however this month we said goodbye to a very dear little friend who left this world far too soon. Her parents strength and courage throughout this time has been not only heartbreaking but also so inspirational to see. We’ll think of little Georgie every day and Dottie will know all about her NICU friend who she used to have daily competitions as to who could set off their monitors first and who she’d wave at from her cot at all hours of the day.
As always it’s been tough and full of the inevitable up and downs however we are starting to see the end of our hospital journey and if things continue as is we should also be home soon! She will be coming home on oxygen so that will be a challenge but one I’m sure we will cope with it, it might just mean we hibernate over the winter but at least we’ll get to do that at home as a family and off the unit.
Thank you again to everyone for your continued help and support. We wouldn’t have got this far without you all and know that we are so lucky to have you all in our lives.
One major shout out and the hugest of thanks to our DIY SOS superheroes Craig, Uncle Dave, Uncle Mike and cousin Nick who have been dead set legends with helping finish the house ready for Dottie’s arrival. I don’t even know where to start in thanking you all for what you have done and are still doing for us.
What made me sad this week?
I’m not sure that anything has made me sad this week – except hearing of the heatwave conditions back at home and the continuation of bushfires. It seems weird to hear about the hot temps, while I’m feeling the cold over here in England.
What made a difference this week?
It was World Prematurity Day on Sunday 17 November and it was very fitting that it was the day I got to see Dottie again since my last visit, and it was the Mathematician’s first meeting with her. He was thoroughly smitten!
Did you know there was such a thing as World Prematurity Day? I certainly didn’t before this and I applaud any organisation that promotes awareness of the many issues related to premature births. It makes a huge difference!
As my daughter and son-in-law prepare to take Dottie home after so long in hospital, the nurses and staff have been amazing in getting them ready for what lies ahead. They have all made such a difference to our lives and we can’t thank them enough for their care and support.
They also love practicing their Aussie accents on us, which is always good for a laugh!
OK it’s your turn now – what would your answers be?
I always enjoy reading your responses to these questions so please leave me a comment and tell me how your week has been.
I’m enjoying this weekly reflection as it makes me stop and think – what about you, do you do something similar?
What would your F word be?
All the best for the week ahead.
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