Ruby was a real gem in every way
The Registered Nurse announced the sad news, which we knew in our hearts already.
Ruby had left us.
She was glamorous, clever, sharp as a tack, stoic and a lovely mother-in-law to me, for well over 40 years.
She’d suffered through the sudden and unexpected death of her second son back in 2014, leaving behind a wife and two young teenage children; then her husband passed away suddenly in 2018 and she was left alone in her house, with no nearby neighbours, out of town, unable to drive (she’d never learnt that skill), and with her remaining two children living many hours drive away.
But she was happy, reading books, doing puzzles, welcoming the birds to the garden, watching TV and communicating with her grandchildren by text. She was well versed in social media and loved nothing more than receiving messages with photos and news of her great-grandchildren’s antics. The girls loved nothing more than getting her comments and ‘chatting’ with her.
Ruby had 3 great-grandchildren and another due in January 2021, strewn across Australia and on the other side of the world. Unfortunately she’d only managed to meet one of them in person but she knew the personalities of the others and delighted in seeing their growth and development. She passed on words of wisdom from time to time.
She loved and was loved in return.
Since June this year her health had seriously declined with oesophagus cancer taking hold and making life a bit more difficult. She never complained about the unfairness of the hand she’d been dealt, just got on with things as best she could.
Did I mention she was proud and strong?
Ruby was 89 years old and was a truly remarkable woman.
A few years ago I used this photo of Ruby in response to a weekly photo challenge and wrote these words to go with it. They are just as relevant today as they were back then.
R Reflective, reliable, responsible, resplendent and rational – a calming influence, willing to share her wisdom with all
U Unique, upbeat, unruffled, understanding and unimpeachable – dealing with all of life’s unfairness in her own way
B Bright, brave, bereaved and a beautiful person inside and out
Y Young at heart – always!
Ruby often wrote each of my daughters, and later their children, an acrostic poem for their birthdays, so I thought I’d write one for her.
I admired her for all sorts of reasons – the words above just scratch the surface.
It’s hard losing someone so special and we are all very sad, trying to make sense of things, and adjusting to the world without Ruby in it.
It’s certainly been a tough year.
Bear with me as I work through this grief.
I usually do a ‘Wordless Wednesday’ post but I’m mixing it up by adding a ‘Wordy Wednesday’ post every now and again.
This was something I really wanted to share and words were very much required.
RIP Ruby 💖
Debbie is an award winning blogger and lives in the small town of Tumbarumba in NSW Australia. Married for 40 years, with three grown up daughters, Debbie and the Mathematician are avid travellers, cyclists and adventurers. Described by others as a ‘hummingbird on speed’ this active mother and grandmother has also received a bravery award from the Queen.
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