What makes you return to a blog again and again?

Do you have favourites?

My daughters are always asking which of them is my favourite 🙂

Family favourite
Family favourite – 3 girls with dad

In a recent zoom chat with blogging friends, I posed these questions:

  • What are your 3 favourite blogs and what makes you keep going back to them? What would make you stop blogging do you think?

I was keen to understand what it is that makes you seek out a particular blog, why do you return to see what the blogger has been up to and what constitutes a good blog. No biggy!!

Some of the bloggers felt like it was trying to pick a favourite child, and couldn’t narrow down their favourite blogs to just 3, that’s fine, neither could I 🙂

Many of us are in the midlife category of bloggers so our tastes reflected that in our choices. We also decided we don’t like vacuous blogs trying to sell us this that and the other, but want to read considered, interesting, honest reflections about life.

The responses were illuminating and the discussion was heartfelt! I love a good discussion do you?

Just some of the reasons given for why we return to a blog over and over again:

  • the blog engages with readers in some way
  • the writing is not contrived
  • inspiring writing and ideas
  • a feeling of connection with the writer
  • authentic and real
  • humorous and engaging
  • be honest
  • kindness emanates from the words
  • common issues
Blogging
Blogging

Other comments

  • A friend once did an experiment where they didn’t comment on blogs for a period of time and they found that no-one sought them out. This was interesting in that blogging seems to have become ‘if I comment on your blog, then you should visit mine and leave a comment’. Do you think that? I don’t subscribe to that thinking and neither do many of the bloggers I engage with. Link ups are a different case.
  • Ads are seen to be annoying and pop-ups are the worst!
  • When joining a linkup, don’t link and run. Always comment on the host’s post and follow the rules, whether it be to visit/comment on at least 2 other posts in the linkup or something similar. As we all have limited time available it’s becoming harder to visit all the blogs we want to, so many people are being more selective in their engagement.
  • Friendship is mutual. And honesty shines through. Every.Time.
  • The key message we discussed though was engage with your readers, and they will forge a bond with you, wanting to read what you’re writing and ultimately seeking you out.
  • Hugh from Hugh’s Views and News (one of my favourite bloggers) wrote an excellent post on responding to comments How do you respond to comments left on your blog and some of the best bits came from the input of those leaving comments. This shows me the talent of the writer, if the conversation continues unabated into the comments section, then this has been a very engaging post, in my opinion.

What would make you give up blogging?


The main reasons given in response to this question were:

  • boredom
  • illness
  • medical issues with either self or family member
  • scarcity of time
  • nothing left to say
  • lack of commitment
  • travelling
  • not fun anymore
  • when it becomes a chore
  • death of either self or close family member

Have you got a plan in place if something happens to you and you can’t update your blog for some reason, or will your blog just die?

Me and blogging – where have the years gone?

I have just ticked over 9 years of blogging and I know I blog way less than I used to when I first started. Blogging to me is an escape into other people’s worlds, but I have to feel comfortable visiting and know that my thoughts/comments won’t be judged. It doesn’t mean everything has to be bland and pasteurised, just accepting of different viewpoints.

No right or wrong way to blog

There is no one right way to blog in my humble opinion. Everyone has their own style, their own reasons and their own voice – and it’s that which makes a blogger feel good, when it all comes together and works. It’s also what keeps others returning to your blog, your voice and personality shine through.

We all have stories to tell and usually our blogs are the way we share our thoughts – for whatever reason.

Blogger
Blogger me

How about you? Any thoughts to add?

Who are your favourite bloggers and why?

Thanks for your input.

Deb xx

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A tragic accident at age 17, resulting in a Bravery Award from the Queen, didn’t deter Debbie from travelling the world.  A young retiree,  after being made redundant from her 22 year career managing education programs in a men’s correctional centre, she now loves reading, blogging, riding her ebike and a good cup of tea! Also known as Granny Debs to her 4 grandchildren.

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83 Replies to “What makes you return to a blog again and again?”

  1. Hi Deb,

    I came across your blog in the WordPress reader. This was the post that appeared as I was surfing ( is that word still used nowadays?).
    I wanted to to tell you that it was serendipity- I’m just returning to blogging after a few years of stopping cold Turkey. I had a successful blog for about 13 years! I wrote about our life on the remote island of Saipan and then continued the story when we retired to rural Japan.

    You had a question in this post about what could make a person stop blogging. I didn’t think it would happen to me- but it did.

    When we first moved back to my husband’s hometown in rural Japan we stayed in a relatives home. A beautiful little traditional Japanese style country cottage at the foot of a mountain. It was storybook! I had a cottage garden and it was heaven.

    And then we had to move – to a small village so that we could take over my husband’s family home.

    My blog was built around our cottage life. I tried- but I couldn’t transition. Worse- it seemed my inspiration vanished and then covid.

    I’m just returning to the blogging world and your post here was the first that I read in my reader.

    I took it as a good sign😬.

    Thank you for taking the time to write- believe me, I know blogging takes effort. ☮️

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    1. I’m so pleased you found my post, what serendipity indeed! Welcome back to the blogging world and I’ll definitely check out your blog. I can imagine the loss of blogging mojo when you moved and appreciate you finding me at just this moment! Yes blogging takes effort, as you are aware of, so I appreciate your kind words. 🙂

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  2. Picking just 3 favourite blogs would be impossible for me too. I have about a dozen I read regularly – two things they all have in common are quality of content and honesty. Even if they are reviewing books I’m not keen to read myself, I know I can rely on them for insightful commentary. And if they don’t care for the book they will explain why. Too many book blogs just gush about the book and suggest it is perfect which is ludicrous .

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  3. Congratulations on your nine year anniversary. That’s cool. I’m finding this post a bit late, but I like your point of view so I’ll jump in. I’ve been blogging since 2004 and have seen lots of blogs come and go. Lots. For me the one variable I look for in a blog is authenticity. It shines through in the way the blogger writes about their life, how they maintain their blog, and how they respond to those who comment on their blog posts. I find that if I sense originality and trustworthiness combined with some innate friendliness, then I meet great people. And for me that is what blogging is all about.

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    1. Thanks Ally, it’s been a fun ride and I’m still enjoying it so I’ll continue a while longer. I bet you’ve seen lots of blogs come and go during that time! Yes to authenticity and your description is just perfect. I’m so glad to have your thoughts.

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  4. Congratulations of the longevity and popularity of your blog. You have an amazing reach and a very connected community. None of that would happen without YOU being the blogger you are and your reciprocate always.

    I had no idea of the cohort of bloggers such as you, Sue, Leanne et al until around 3-4 years ago as I was not a wordpress blogger (always independent) nor a blogger one.

    But I began with the huge range of Mummy Bloggers (just to give them a name) back in 2010. I learned about blogging etiquette there and at the few conferences I attended.

    My blog was originally started to help me connect socially on line as I was lonely and had begun great twitter friendships.

    My enthusiasm for what I did waned in the years 2012-2014 and it was my move away from Sydney in 2015 when I knew I needed something to do (and keep me accountable) every day so I blogged 365 days. There were links ups back then on Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Fridays. It prompted me, as link ups stopped in 2016-17 to begin my own on Mondays in Sept 2016 to replace a friend who had stopped.

    I am glad you did not call out who your favourites were! Comparison is hard!! And my little blog, is a life saver to me but not a top one at all….

    Always delighted to see your posts in Life This Week Link up. Thanks for joining in. Looking forward to next week, when we may, should we choose, Share Our Snaps (photos!). Denyse.

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    1. Thanks Denyse, I enjoyed reading your thoughts and you are a very experienced blogger with so much to offer. I’m so glad our paths have crossed and always enjoy reading your words and thoughts. You are inspiring!

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  5. Hey, great post. I love that you sought and polled other bloggers for feedback. When I started blogging I didn’t actually have any strategy and then it quickly became a chore (even though I love to write and consider myself a writer). Only recently did I commit myself to a schedule and decide that if I was going to do this blog thing, I better start with complete honesty and then somehow humour found its way into my posts. I love engaging with other bloggers who either have an understanding of what I’m going through or find what I’m going through amusing (because I always say, better to laugh than cry)! ☺️

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    1. Thanks very much, and welcome along! I appreciated reading your thoughts and agree that engaging with others who understand us, through our words, and support us when we are going through stuff, they are the ones worth keeping and staying in touch with!

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  6. I have been pondering your questions Debbie and it’s hard to pin down what keeps me returning to certain blogs. Positivity and humour, interesting pictures, funny cartoons. We all need brightening up at the moment, but of course we may want to follow other bloggers who are sharing the same difficulties. Naturally it’s rewarding to follow bloggers who regularly comment on your own blogs as you feel you know them. While it’s fun to read about people at the same stage in life and similar background it’s also very interesting to read about totally different lives. That is one of the best parts of blogging – learning from people you are unlikely to ever meet. In all these pandemic lockdowns blogging keeps us sane as well, in touch with the outside world.

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    1. I’m so pleased to have your thoughts on the subject, so many thanks for commenting. We all need brightening up and blogs have a way of doing just that. I also agree, reading blogs that are very different to our lives, helps me to understand the world in a different way. Thanks again.

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  7. So interesting! I’ve been blogging for 10 years (eeep!) and the blogosphere has changed so much. I prefer old school blogs/bloggers as opposed to blogs that are mostly adverts and influencing – it’s just not my jam! I think replying to comments is good etiquette, if someone has taken the time to read, I think it is only polite to reply. I don’t think it’s necessary to visit someone who has visited my blog but it’s a nice thing to do – for me, the best bit about blogging is the connections.

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    1. Thanks Sammie, I agree with all your words here. Congrats on your longevity in the blogosphere and you’re right, it’s all about the connections we make.

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  8. Thank you for so much great information. A primer on blogging etiquette, too. I try to be reciprocal and also to do due diligence. I don’t think of it as oppressive, but fairness. If I haven’t been able to read, because of busyness, I may post occasionally on my blog, but not do link ups unless I can really take the time needed to read and comment. I do have several favorite bloggers that I have come to appreciate. I try to limit follows. I don’t follow someone unless I think I am gong to be able to take the time to read them, but being able to connect with other writers on link parties still gives the opportunity for connection. Some days I worry that I will run out of stories or things to write about, since my primary focus is memoir, and yet they come and I am grateful. You were my first “read” and through your blog i connected with others. I have learned so much that has influenced me, including health and writing. So thankful for your encouragement too. Congratulations on nine years of boldness. Best and blessings, Michele

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    1. Thanks so much Michele, I’m glad you found my post helpful! Your thoughts are very clear and make complete sense to me, time is often our biggest problem and can impact on how much we can linkup and engage with others as you say. I love that I was your first ‘read’ and feel so honoured that you are still around!! You continue doing your blog your way and you will go from strength to strength 🙂

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  9. Wow! Great question, Deb. I think what makes a blog engaging is how much I care about the blogger as a person. I hope that doesn’t sound cruel or snobbish. When the writer is engaging, whether it is in their writing or in the interaction between blogger and commenter, I want to go back to that blog time and time again. Thanks for making me think. This is a question we bloggers should all ask ourselves.

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    1. Thanks Laurie, it has been a great discussion post and I so appreciate everyone joining in with their thoughts. You don’t sound snobbish at all, it’s a great way to look at why you are drawn to some blogs and not others.

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  10. Tis an intriguing world, this world of blogging. I’m attracted to blogs which are well written, humorous and have interesting content. I’m still very much working out how to attract regular visitors as that seems very elusive still. Much to ponder. I also should upgrade my blog site to get rid of the pesky ads which are there irritating others but which I don’t see.

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    1. Thanks Chris, I appreciate your thoughts on blogging, it seems many of us are on a similar wavelength! Isn’t it funny how some people hate the ads and others don’t seem to care!

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  11. As a veteran blogger {since 2008}, I’ve noticed how much blogging has changed. I must admit that back in the day I definitely engaged a lot more and blogging, in general, seemed to have more engagement. Then, juggling so many things meant my way of engaging was more to comment on someone else’s blog if they left a comment on mine as a means to reciprocate. These days, I probably just follow a few regular blogs on Feedly and will comment even if they don’t visit mine. I also will admit that sometimes, when work gets incredibly busy, I slip up and don’t engage as much.

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    1. Thanks for your response Sanch, I always appreciate hearing from experienced bloggers. Another blogging friend has also commented on the change in engagement she’s noticed over the years. I think we all have times when we just can’t visit and comment on all the blogs we’d love to read!

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  12. I don’t think i have a favourite blogger and I wouldn’t publicly announce favourites I don’t think as I’d be afraid of missing someone and/or offending someone. I enjoy blogs that write about stuff that aligns with my interests. That happens to mostly be other midlife bloggers but also some younger bloggers who might write on topics I’m interested in. I don’t like reading blogs with lots of ads everywhere – such a turn off and the reason why I have not gone that way with my blog. I decided a long time ago that my blog was not about making money. It’s about connections and is a creative outlet for me. It’s amazing what I’ve learned about myself through blogging. Congratulations BTW on your 9 years of blogging! It’s been nearly 9 years for me also. I started blogging in September 2012. As for when or why I would stop blogging – yes all the reasons you’ve listed. Sometimes my interest wanes or I’m unwell or busy and I take a break. I think we all need a break now and then. Have a great week Deb. xo

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    1. Congrats to you too Min, I can relate to everything you say here and agree wholeheartedly! I have never even thought about making money from my blog and removed ads as soon as I could work out how to do it! I always enjoy reading your blog and you have so much to offer. Many thanks for joining in.

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  13. Congrats, Debbie, on 9 years of blogging! You summed up the common reasons of why we keep returning to a blog very well. I’m in the camp of bloggers who want to connect and build relationships. Any new friends I make via blogging is my “pen friends of the 21st century” and I’d be thrilled when the friendships flourish and deepen over time. I blog once a week for fun. When it’s no longer fun, I’ll stop. #lifethisweek

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    1. Thank you Natalie, I always think of my blogging friends as my penpals too :). I once had a penfriend in Canada but unfortunately lost touch. Great to have your thoughts on the topic!

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  14. I am not sure this comment is on your latest post but I sometimes find it hard to find the comments on WP blogs!

    Thanks for explaining why I blog via your own experience. I have been blogging for 8 plus years now. I still love doing it.

    I used to be very career oriented but with 6 kids and cancer, I can no longer work.
    For me, blogging is how I can continue to write and enjoy photography. I used to run an advertising company so my blog is an extension of my former industry in a morr personal and unique way.

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    1. That’s a great reason for blogging and you sound very busy with all that going on! It’s funny how we start blogging with thoughts on how it will go and then it changes over the years. Thanks for visiting and sharing your thoughts.

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  15. Hey Deb,
    Happy Bloggiversary!
    A great read and really enjoyed this discussion. The tit for tat comments can be quite annoying and like you, I like to comment on posts I’ve enjoyed reading.
    I’m finding it difficult to keep up with my blog now that I’m working full time and longer hours. Just want to rest at night and weekends, but then there’s the renovating to do…

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    1. Many thanks for the congrats! The discussion has been great with many interesting comments coming in. It’s obviously a subject that hits home with many bloggers. Working and trying to keep a blog going must be very hard, although I did it in the first few years. Thankfully I’m now retired but still seem busier than ever at times! So much to do, so little time! Thanks for joining in 🙂

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  16. 9 years! That’s amazing. I’ve been around about that time too but always very inconsistently, it wasn’t until Christmas 2020 that I had found how I wanted to blog. I’ve been reading way too many “blogging rules” marketing posts so was too worried about mixing up different topics although they were topics I was passionate about. When I dared to bring music geekery into my personal blog, I finally felt that it was complete and that I suddenly loved my blog.

    I agree with all the ideas here. The blog content needs to be interesting and something I can relate to, I want to read about real life and people’s experiences. The content also needs to be updated quite regularly, at least once every two weeks or so, otherwise I’ll lose interest.
    Also, if the blog has popups, I’ll leave and never come back. Also, I’ll usually leave a Blogger blog because I can’t comment on them (unless they use Disqus). I read and write blogs much because of the connection, so being able to comment is important.
    I think it’s difficult to find interesting blogs these days, because so many just want to sell stuff or they’re mostly filled with what I see as random cliché posts (I can’t handle more “10 ways to..” kind of titles anymore) that don’t interest me and that have no personality. I like blogs where the blogger shows some personality.

    One blog I always come back to is https://kerrylifeandloves.com, she writes some sponsored posts but always very honestly where her passion for the topic always shines through, and mixed with more personal posts. I love her writing style and she seems to be a really lovely person.

    Oops this became a very long comment, but this is an interesting topic!

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    1. Thanks Susanne for your comprehensive comment, and I agree with what you say! It is an interesting topic and one I love talking about and finding out people’s thoughts on. Thanks for the recommendation, I will go and check out Kerry’s blog. I hear you on the blogging rules posts, I gave them up years ago for the same reason. I have a nice blogging community who I love to stay in touch with for much the same reason as you. Thanks again for joining in 🙂

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  17. I loved this, so many good points. And I think I agree with blog comments – there does seem to be some degree of mutual reciprocation, or at least the expectation of reciprocation. I actually had a nasty email from someone once because I always commented on their blog but I didn’t follow them on Instagram. I explained I hadn’t noticed they were on Instagram, though reallllllly wanted to say they’d not once commented on my blog, but that’s not why I comment on other blogs; I do it because I want to, not because I want a comment in return. Stuff like that, tit for tat or someone getting angry because you don’t like or follow them (what the hell?) is drama I don’t like. What I do like – what I love – is the friendship and support and community vibe. You’re right, friendship does shine through. A good point about what would we do if something happens to us. I sadly just saw about another blogger, a woman named Sue (Vincent, not sure if you know of her?) that passed away a couple of days ago. That came as a shock. I suppose we don’t like to think about putting a plan B in place if something happens to us, or even if we just need to take some time out.

    Happy Bloggiversary! You should be hugely proud of your blog and all you achieve here, Deb. You’re a blessing in the blogging world  ♥

    Caz xx

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    1. Yes Caz, just after posting this I saw the posts about Sue and felt very sad. Thanks for the points you make here and I can’t believe the drama you had to deal with – how awful! Thanks also for your congrats on my blog, it’s still a work in progress but I’m enjoying myself so that’s all that matters and I meet lovely people like you in the process! x

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  18. Congrats on your nine years, Debbie! I follow a lot of blogs but there are a few that I always look forward to reading, including yours. In fact, everything on the list of best blog attributes can be said of yours. I have met so many interesting people through blogging – both virtually and in real life – that, right now at least, I can’t imagine giving it up.

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    1. Hi Janis, many thanks for your comment, you made me smile with your words :). I love the way we meet others too and finding a community of people who get it and enjoy what they’re doing makes me happy. Your blog is always an interesting place to visit with your wise words and your take on things, so many thanks for sharing your talent.

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  19. I so agree with everything you have said. I come back and forth, can be here, and then not for a log time, but it warms my heart to see all the people I have known from the start and then they comment, and I know there are still there, even if not writing anymore, it’s like a millions hugs.

    I really want to find the blogs that you mention, the authentic, real, humorous and engaging ones, but it’s so difficult to find anything on WordPress now and when I join blogging groups I am inundated with people who want to sell me things or promote their books. That’s good for them, but if I wanted to read a book I’d buy one, I want to read about life and people experiences of it. So if you can recommend any I would be eternally grateful.

    I’m not a fan of social media and perhaps I lose out something by not being on that bandwagon, but if I have just a few great blogs that I follow and a few great friends as a result, then I reckon that’s a win for me anyway 🙂

    Worpdress, while I have been away this time seems to have done me a disservice by removing some of the people I followed from my list so I am in the process of finding and getting them back.

    Glad to have found you again, thank you Twitter (even if I don’t like social media lol)

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    1. Thanks for your comment and welcome back! Yes things may have changed a little while you’ve been away but I’m sure you’ll find your ‘people’ again! The groups you mention fill me with fear a lot of the time, it can make it so overwhelming and not in a fun way. Take care and ease back in….

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  20. Hi Debbie, let me kick off by first congratulating you on 9 years of blogging on WordPress. And secondly, thank you so much for linking and mentioning my recent blog post about responding to comments. Seriously, you mad me blush with what you said; ‘it shows the writer’s talent and the post being so engaging.’ Wow! I’m delighted you thought so about that post.

    Now on to your questions –

    I can’t name my three favourite blogs because I have so many favourites. If I leave comments on some of your blog posts, your blog is one of my favourites. I also keep discovering new blogs which have brilliant content that I always leave comments on. I introduced you (and your readers) to some of those blogs in your Saturday shoutout posts.

    What would stop me from visiting a blog? When it starts producing content that no longer interests me, or I find myself not interested in what they are publishing anymore.

    I’ve encountered the ‘you comment on my blog, and I’ll comment on your blog’ brigade many times. When I first came to blogging, I used to do that. Because of it, I ended up wasting lots of time reading blogs that didn’t really interest me or motivated me to leave comments. I found myself having to force myself to read and leave comments. That’s not what blogging is about. The fun and enjoyment were lost, and I ended up getting stressed out by it.

    I no longer force myself to blog. If I’m not in the mood for it, then I won’t do it. If I find myself enjoying blogging, then I’ll continue to it. It’s quite easy when you think about it. I don’t know why it took me so long to work that out.

    Don’t get me started on those annoying pop-ups! I feel many of them have your arm behind your back in that they won’t go away unless you sign up. No, thank you! I’d rather not read their blog than being faced with annoying pop-ups every time I try reading one of their posts.

    I think that’s me said and done on this one.

    Thanks again for the mention.

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    1. I always appreciate your thoughtful comments Hugh and this is no exception. Your responses reflect my way of thinking a lot of the time and after all these years i have come to realise I want to blog on my terms and no-one else’s. I can blog every day if I’m in the mood or leave it for a week or more, it’s no big deal! we all do things our own way and after so many years of blogging i’m finally learning that that’s OK. Yes it’s taken me a while too 🙂

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  21. An interesting read, thank you 🙂 Being quite new to blogging I’ve started to follow a number of other bloggers whose posts I enjoy but I’m realising how much time it consumes to read and engage with their posts if they post (nearly) every day, so I may need to be more selective as my network grows. I enjoy well-written posts on themes that are relevant to my interests, which means mainly travel and photography. I engage with images as much as I do words so quality photography is likely to grab me. But I don’t really enjoy blogs that are just one photo with minimal explanation. And it may be unfair of me but I’m put off by poor grammar 😆

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    1. Hi Sarah, thanks for your positive and honest comments. Over the years I’ve followed many bloggers but it does become time consuming as you say. I hope you are enjoying your blogging experience and wish you well.

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  22. Hi Deb, I love reading blogs that are well written, engaging and thought provoking. I find myself reading the same ones every week because they brighten my day. Congratulations on 9 years, and may there be many more!

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    1. Thanks very much for joining in Christina. I agree with you and have to make myself seek out others too, otherwise I just read the same bloggers, not that there’s anything wrong with that 🙂

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  23. I keep coming back for the people. But, out of sight out of mind can also be true even in blogging. It used to be that many of my favorite bloggers could all be found on the weekly link party that Sue and Leeanne ran, but since that closed, I don’t see them as much and have to search for them. I don’t like to sign up for email reminders because my box is full enough, I do like it, though, when bloggers are on Bloglovin, like you are, so you show up in my capsule email when you post. (Although I will admit when I’m working on a project, all my free time goes there and I miss reading out on some posts.)

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    1. Yes I know the out of sight out of mind mentality Jennifer. I miss the midlife linkup too and try hard to touch base with most of my favourites but time is hard to find, especially to do all we want to do, even in retirement! Thanks for adding your thoughts here.

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  24. Firstly, I have to say congrats Deb, on the way you’ve diversified over the years and really grown with your blog. I just listened to you on your podcast! Such a nice personal way to relate to your readers.
    I’ve been blogging for six years and, even though I still feel that same sense of connection, I do blog far less than I used to. But I agree with so many of your points here, it’s all about that interaction, the comments and the conversation. I do have a few favourites and yours is amongst them, even though I admit I don’t get around to reading as often as I used to. Time just seems to be flying by and blogging seems to be less of a priority. But I do still love it! Thanks for a thought provoking post. 😊

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    1. Many thanks Miriam, I always say I’m a work in progress! You are one of the first bloggers I came across and i still value your words even if you aren’t blogging as much as you used to. Your words and sentiments are always honest and resonate with me and many others. You too have diversified over the years, well done for all your achievements 🙂

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  25. Congratulations on your nine years! That seemed like a long time until I realised that I’ll be hitting that one later this year. For me, the two things that keep me coming back are an engaging personality and honesty. Without those, I quickly tune out.

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    1. Thanks very much Clive, and to you too for later in the year! You’re right, personality and honesty are key areas for bloggers and it’s not that hard to weed out the other types!

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  26. Hi Deb, it was certainly an interesting discussion and you’ve summarised it really well. I don’t think many bloggers actually think about the topic. I think there are different types of bloggers – those that want to connect with others and build relationships and those that just link up and run. I also enjoyed listening to this post on the Podcast. #proudofyou

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    1. Thanks for that Sue, you’re right in that we are all different as bloggers and need to respect that difference. So pleased to have you as my cheerleader 🙂

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  27. I like blogs that write about quirky things, are funny, or make me think. What I find most annoying are those bloggers who automatically like posts without reading them. Tonight I had someone “like” twenty five different posts of mine in the span of two minutes. That makes no sense to me. Do they think people don’t notice those things?

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    1. I’m like that too Pete, it’s got to catch my interest and hold it for me to return. I often laugh at those who like things the minute you publish it or go on a run like you mentioned. It takes all kinds!!

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  28. Good question, Deb why do we go back to the same bloggers. Gut instinct and it’s fun to open up the reader to see what’s happening with everyone. A light relief from “reality”, if that makes sense at all. Blogging has been a wonderful addition to my life and at times like now it is hard to keep up with all my favourites 🙂 Keep on blogging, Deb.

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      1. Yes, I agree wholeheartedly with Suzanne’s comments. It’s like we are a blogging family in a way and love hearing about what’s going on! Thanks for joining in and being a part of it.

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    1. Yes Suz, I think gut instinct plays a big part in it and once we’ve met in person it’s like we all have even more of a connection. So pleased to have you in my blogging world, as you add a great deal with your posts, photography and attitude. Thanks for your comment too!

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  29. Wonderful post! I love to talk shop! Your blog captures all the reasons I come back to a blog again and again! Warm, conversational, transparent, authentic, and lovely content! Congrats on 9 years! I learn so much from you!

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  30. I have to admit that the majority of time I return to a blog is because they write often, and thus I see them when I’m doing my rounds on the WordPress Reader. I also subscribe to a bunch who I feel have interesting stories or lessons, but I understand that’s mostly subjective. Interesting topic. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Thanks for your response Stuart, I often wonder how people find other blogs to follow. I agree the reader helps a lot and finding interesting topics is crucial to me. Engagement is also paramount so I do appreciate you dropping by!

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  31. Thought provoking post. I am really bad about not commenting quickly on the comments left on my blog. And I struggle so with getting by to read all of the posts on all of the blogs I follow. Just not enough hours in the day. My blog is a mess right now because I tried to have someone update my theme and they have messed it all up and then aren’t responding to my queries and emails. It has made me wonderful if I should just give the whole thing up.
    Congratulations on 9 years of interesting posts and great reads.

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    1. Hi Leslie, that’s a real shame your blog is in a ‘mess’ and the person involved isn’t responding to you, so bad!! I struggle at times also, trying to fit it all in but sometimes just need to switch off and leave it for a while before I get overwhelmed. I usually get drawn back in. Thanks for your congrats and lovely words xx

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  32. Hi Deb – it’s certainly an interesting topic and I was discussing blogging with another blogger yesterday – and we both agreed that the “feel” has changed over the last couple of years. It’s like everyone is tired and less keen to put in the effort if there’s no “reward” – so less commenting, less guest posts, less engagement. Congrats on 9 years – my only regret with blogging is that I only started 6 years ago – I wish I’d been there in its hey day when everyone was new and keen – but it’s still pretty darn good these days too and I won’t be quitting any time soon x

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    1. That’s good to hear you are sticking around Leanne, as you have important insights to offer to many of us who follow your blog. I think there’s a lot vying for our attention these days and some people find it hard to commit to a blog, but I’m appreciative of all those who join me and love making connections with others, like yourself. x

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  33. This is a great summary, Deb. I wholeheartedly agree with Hugh, how some of the “best bits” came from the comments. I learn a great deal from the comments, a mutual discussion with often unique perspectives. A huge laugh out loud re: ‘death of self’ and it sounds as if some bloggers have a plan in place even after death. An adorable picture of your daughters and your husband. Congratulations on 9 years of blogging! I am truly glad our paths crossed on this journey.xx ❤️

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    1. Yes I’m so pleased we’ve crossed paths too Erica, you are such a sweet soul and always so encouraging. It’s that ‘presence’ of you, through your words and pictures, that makes me keep coming back to your blog, so many thanks for being you.

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  34. Lots to think about here Debbie. I was thinking the other day about if something happened to me, God forbid, who could I ask to update my status!
    I often look up blogs of people I haven’t heard from a while in case I’ve missed the notification
    I like blogs like yours with something to say and travel ones with lots of photos.
    I often wonder though how some bloggers manage with thousands of followers! I would like more but the work involved would take all day.
    Anyway I’ll keep blogging and reading for the time being 😀

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    1. Thanks for stopping by and joining in the conversation Alison. I have been sitting on this post for a while so decided to finally publish it! I love travel blogs too and often have the same thought as you – how do people amass so many followers and how do they cope with it all? Something I don’t need to worry about anyway! You keep doing you and enjoy the process along the way 🙂

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