It’s funny how we get busy doing things, like living with all kinds of issues going on around us, that we forget we are actually making memories at the same time.
We’re continually being told that life is about living in the ‘now’; to be ‘present ‘; to be mindful and to live in the moment; to not look back as we’re not going that way….and they are all good ways of living, but sometimes you want to go back to your memories. They formed us and play a huge role in who we are today, why we act in certain ways, how we manage to move on and cope.
With all that has happened in recent years – bushfires, pandemic, floods, family loss, illness, earthquakes, severe weather events, the situation unfolding in the Ukraine, and so much more – and now mosquito encephalitis threatening us as well, it can be hard to stay or feel in any way resilient. The word that is still being bandied about is ‘unprecedented’, it seems everything is unprecedented at the moment and maybe it is, but I am sick and tired of hearing that word!
Many of those in the flooded areas of Northern NSW have lost everything and yet have to pick up their lives and carry on – how do they do it? I feel so much heartache for so many people and I even feel guilty for sitting in the sunshine while it’s raining in other parts of the country – I think it’s called guilt, anxiety, overwhelm!
Random thoughts and memories
I don’t really know what I’m trying to say so I’ll just make a few points:
- My younger sister turns 60 this week (there’s only 15 months between us) and she isn’t that happy about it given that when we were young 60 sounded soooo old. Looking back at our memories, all our grandparents, aunts and uncles were ancient and were probably at the time much younger than we are today. I know what she means and feel the same way at times, but now that I’m 61 it’s not so bad – we are relatively fit, healthy, happy, active and more aware. I am trying to help her manage this transition by being the helpful big sister, saying glib things like 60 is the new 30 (twice) but the unexpected death of Shane Warne (Aussie cricketer) at 52 this week, brings home, again, that you really do have to treat each day like it’s your last. Why do we even need these reminders?
Here is a lovely collection of photos from my archives of me with my sister Sharon – we’ve certainly created some memories between us over the years! By the way I haven’t seen my sister in person for over a year, due to lockdowns, family illness and she’s only 5 hours drive down the road!
- I shared this photo of my latest quote card on my Facebook page with the caption:
Let’s not panic just yet – we’ll go for a ride instead! It’s hard not to let all the awful news get to us so we have to do what we can to cope and getting out on the bike certainly helps me to process things.
Getting out for a walk, or a ride certainly helps me cope as does writing things down – that’s how they become memories. How about you?
- As you know by now, I have a daughter and granddaughter living in England and I’m trying to work out when I can travel to see them – it’s been over 2 years now since I last saw them in person. Dottie knows me as Granny, through the screen, but I want to create real memories with her. Just last week I had a glimmer of hope that I could maybe travel to see her for her 3rd birthday later this year and then Russia decided to attack Ukraine, so on top of the pandemic concerns, there’s now also the threat of war escalating – so a glimmer it will stay. I will leave it for a little while but will definitely be trying to get to see them as soon as I feel ‘safe’ to do so. When did it all get so hard? I used to decide on a trip, book flights, make lists of what to pack, where to stay, what to do and then anticipate it for weeks/months but not any more. The Australian borders have only just reopened to international tourists, so we’re not taking anything for granted anymore. Memories of my travels are just that at the moment – memories!
- My sister and I were talking about this on the phone yesterday and we decided it comes down to control, we don’t feel like we have much control over anything these days. This song by Aussie legend Missy Higgins is all about Total Control and was written for a TV show of the same name and it is playing on repeat in my ears. I thought you might like to hear it!
I hope my take on the prompt this week hasn’t been too depressing but I’ve been in one of those reflective/thoughtful moods that strike me every now and again, so thought I’d jot a few things down – it sometimes helps to get these things out of my head 🙂
How do you cope with these issues? I’m keen to know your thoughts.
In the meantime please join me in wishing my sister a very happy birthday! I’m sure she’ll appreciate me telling everyone how old she is!
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A tragic accident at age 17, resulting in a Bravery Award from the Queen, didn’t deter Debbie from travelling the world. A young retiree, after being made redundant from her 22 year career managing education programs in a men’s correctional centre, she now loves reading, blogging, riding her ebike and a good cup of tea! Also known as Granny Debs to her 4 grandchildren.
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