What do I really really want?

There’s not much that I really want…

Denyse poses the question of what ‘I want’ for today’s #Lifethisweek.

There’s not much I really want, but the first thing that came to mind was HUGS – big comforting hugs from my friends.

The sort of hug that says, I hear you, I support you, I’m here for you and I know life is tough sometimes…..


With the pandemic going on and on, something I’ve missed is the casual hug of friends, shaking hands, being close to people without the fear of infection. And having to constantly watch how close people are standing, and being aware and on guard is something that just has to be done – but it’s not normal.

I wrote this in a post back in June, all about pandemic thoughts, and nothing has changed.

Hugs – real long and cuddly hugs from friends. Now that surprises me, as I wouldn’t have said I was a huggy sort of person, but just recently I’ve needed big bear hugs and just can’t have them yet, apart from very close family members.

I understand the rationale behind keeping our distance from friends and family and am respecting the request for maintaining social distancing. But it doesn’t mean I like it!

big hugs
big hugs

Now I have to say I’m not the world’s best hugger, it’s sometimes awkward knowing whether to go in for a hug or a kiss or a shake of hands, but at the moment it’s easy – you just can’t do it! And I’ve missed it.

Air hugs
Air hugs to you

So in answer to my opening question – what do I really really want? Maybe if I’m being honest, I’d say I really want this all to be over!

What about you?

What is on top of your list of ‘wants’ at the moment?

Take care and I’m sending hugs to you xoxo


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37 Replies to “What do I really really want?”

  1. Yep, I want this to be over & I want to be able to visit Mum & Dad…and I want to be able to travel with certainty and I want 3 days completely off work of all sorts.

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  2. Absolutely! I’m not afraid of getting this virus at all, but I feel I always have to be concerned about people that are terrified of getting it and respect their boundaries. It’s so hard in social situation knowing what people are thinking…some back way off if they see you coming and you don’t know if it’s because they are afraid of getting the disease or they think you are. Everyone seems so apprehensive and afraid of each other. I miss the days of hand shakes and hugs.

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  3. I want my old life back. I can’t say it’s all that different (except, of course, for the hugs and personal closeness) but I loved having the freedom – and ease – of going where I wanted. But, I’m OK with sticking this thing out for as long as we need to kick its butt. I just wish more of my fellow countrymen and women felt the same.

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  4. I got too depressed about what I want (all along the lines of wanting this to be over) so I couldn’t even write the post without it being so negative. Your’s is more cheery than I would have been. For the record, I believe prolonged eye contact has the same benefits as a hug (or maybe dancing has the same benefits as a hug. I forget.)

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  5. Yes, I want this pandemic to be over for good. I want to have coffee chats with my friends and walk outside without social distancing and masks. I want to travel without quarantine at the destination and when I return to my home country. Bear hugs to you Deb. #lifethisweek

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  6. I have noticed what a treat it is to share time with friends outside since this thing started! A good reminder for me, I suppose! But I, too, am ready to get my freedom back in its entirety! To go where I want without wearing a mask, to read something in the news that is not related to the virus and/or politics, and to avoid going to 4 different stores to find what I need! Sorry for the rant . . . hugs would be nice too! 😁🌵🙏

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  7. Ugh I miss hugs so much! Living by myself means I don’t get to hug anyone unlike people who probably still have a partner or kids with them. I mean, I do squish my cats if they can tolerate it {and to Pebbles’ credit, she does allow me} but yeah, I miss human touch so very much. I also want to go and see live music while standing in a moshpit, I want to be spontaneous and just catch up with friends without planning and prepping, I want to go to author events in person…

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  8. Hi Deb – I’m a bit of a conflicted hugger too. I love hugs with close family members and now that covid is almost non-existant in WA we’ve gone back to hugging each other (and I love it!). I was never a great friend hugger and found the whole “do I or don’t I” thing a bit awkward – now I’m relieved to just wave and say Hi – it’s enough to be able to sit with someone for coffee and a chat again (I really missed that too). Great thought provoking post x

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  9. I just had this conversation with a teacher friend today. I was the guy who was always giving students hugs, high fives, and fist bumps. I know that I would adjust because of the current health situation if I were still teaching, but lots of kids need that kind of physical affirmation.

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  10. I’m with you, I want this to be over although realistically, I don’t think it will be any time soon. That said, I miss hugs too although I’m lucky I married a cuddler and I have a very huggable dog. Most of all though, I miss hugging my mum 😦

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      1. My older daughter was 10 when they started and absolutely loved them. We had to buy her their album – I just wanted the ground to open up and swallow me every time it was played! 😂

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  11. I’m one of those people that hugs everyone and I’m finding it very hard to stop hugging and have to check myself, especially with my mum as she is in remission from cancer so we keep our distance and take extra precautions.

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  12. It’s the little things I’ve missed in covid – small local festivals. Some are terrible but they’re “mine”, you know? I don’t want them to change and get fancy and corporate, I like them the way they are.

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  13. I am a hugger but it’s come over time. I guess, meeting up with blogging friends and those I have met via social media usually involves hug now. My son gives the best and strong hugs (and I had a couple 2 weeks ago) and my Dad, even though it could be a little risky, really, really wanted a hug when I last saw him and I did. Social isolation and a lack of physical contact for months for him meant I was prepared to take that risk. Recently when I was having a sad moment post surgery in hospital, my surgeon said “oh sweetheart I wish I could give you a hug”.

    Sending HUGS to you…and yes, when/if we meet, it will be a HUG…

    Thanks for linking up this week for #LifeThisWeek. Next week the optional prompt is 34/51 Self-Care Stories. #5. 24.8.2020 and I hope to see you there. Take care, Denyse.

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  14. As the primary caregiver for my parents as well as Les, I do become more apprehensive when going out and haven’t been back to hiking due to sharing space in cars. In some ways, it’s fun doing elbow hugs with the parents; well, it makes them laugh. Sending Aroha and a hug your way, Deb x

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