As the Mathematician and I celebrate our 38th wedding anniversary, I thought back to how we’ve weathered life along the way.
We both started out in our brilliant white outfits and haven’t looked back.
I had been considering writing a post to offer advice to newly marrieds, my daughter among them, but I decided I don’t have any real advice to give except maybe:
- to be patient
- to accept each other
- to have fun together
- weather the storms together
- to be realistic and honest
- to be there for each other through the good and bad times
I was only 19 and one month old (to the day) when we married, which means I’ve now been married for twice as long as I was single – a scary thought! We’d known each other for a few years before getting married too, so it’s safe to say we’ve been together for well over 40 years all together. I think we’ve done well 🙂 I know 19 is young to commit to someone but it’s worked for us and the Mathematician was a few yeas older than I was at the time.
Here we are on our wedding day – I always love the sky behind me being dark and stormy while behind my husband it’s clear! Is the weather trying to tell me something?
I have written an anniversary post regularly over the past few years:
In 2014 it was You are the Flip to my Flop, in 2015 it was a simple post called Celebrating, in 2017 I made it a Throwback Thursday post – and the one thing that stands out clearly from these posts, is that marriage is a continual work in progress.
It’s not always fun, or easy or romantic – it’s often just the opposite, but it’s something we both work hard towards maintaining because that’s what love is all about. Don’t get me wrong, we have fun and adventures together but I’m not going to whitewash it to be something perfect and wonderful all the time. We’ve gone through a lot together and have our families and our parents to thank for their support and for being great role models. You just never know what the future holds when you marry so making the journey together and being there for each other is vitally important.
Our daughters say that we are living the dream at the moment – we’re both retired, young, fit, healthy, happy and adventurous and (luckily) financially sound enough to enjoy our lifestyle. It’s the life choices we’ve made, decisions we’ve made together and ultimately ‘love’ that has enabled this to be ‘our’ time.
Trees weathering life
These trees in the Finders Ranges of South Australia on the other hand have weathered hundreds of years, seeing all that’s happened around them, providing life, shelter, shade and they have been an integral part of this special environment.
I love their gnarly root system, their entwined branches, their steadfast trunks, their ability to cope through good and bad times, their continual growth – I believe these same attributes can be applied to a marriage!
These trees are still standing and so are we!!
Thanks to the Daily Post for this week’s photo challenge prompt of Weathered which allowed me to indulge myself with a post combining two loves of my life – my husband and trees 🙂
Are you game enough to offer any words of advice on the subject of marriage and how to make it a long and happy relationship? If so, I’d love to hear your thoughts and so would everyone else I’m sure 🙂
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